What’s Normal?

Posted on by Vince Sarfraz SD

I grew up in a small town with lots of family nearby. Sure, like all families we had our issues, but for the most part it was a very healthy and loving family. Unless we were in the middle of a fierce game of UNO screaming and yelling weren't part our DNA. We spoke words of encouragement and love. We worked to communicate our differences in a calm manner with respect for one another.

How we are raised and what we are surrounded by growing up is how we define normal.

Part of our goal in Christ-sharing relationships through mentoring is to show teens another perspective…another way of doing things.

I was recently meeting with a young girl I mentor. She was discouraged because she doesn’t feel like she has friends. Her friends use drugs, lie and gossip. Her friends yell and curse at one another. The "F" word and yelling is their normal way of communicating. We spent an hour discussing what a healthy relationship could look like. What is it we all want out of a relationship and how do we want to be treated? It takes time to break habits. It takes commitment to move from dysfunctional to healthy.

Our mentors walk with kids to paint a picture of what a healthy relationship can look like, NOT because we are perfect, but because we have a relationship with a perfect God who modeled for us a relationship filled with love.

LEARN MORE about how we're reaching the highest-risk youth of San Diego through mentoring.

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